One of the most difficult things for many fathers is to see their children starting up school in September.  As much as we may think we are glad they are back, as a REAL DAD, we know that we miss them.  We miss having them around, but we also get a bit nervous.  Nervous about not being there for them if they are getting teased, or worse, beaten up by another child.  We know we can no longer be their protector and their ever-present hero. 

As hard as that is on us, it can also be much harder on them, especially if your children are younger.  They miss the security of Daddy, your hugs (no matter what they say), and your wisdom, as they figure out the world for themselves. 

So why not remind them that they are not alone and you are still there for them?  There are many things you can do to remind them that you are thinking about them while they are off at school.  Two of the most meaningful are:

1. Take them out for lunch.  Find out exactly when their lunch begins and get there 5 or ten minutes early.  They will be pleasantly surprised when you tell them you want to take them out for lunch.  Choose a nearby restaurant for time's sake, let them order whatever they want and just chat - reminding them that you love them.  They will treasure that memory for a long time, because they will see that day that they are worth taking time out of your busy schedule, and that you really want to be with them.  Keep them off-guard as to when you will do it again; that way, they are always surprised.
   
   
2. Some of us are unable to get away from work, or have other reasons why we cannot take our children out to lunch (although taking a day off work for this purpose is a day off well invested!).  Try something a little easier.  Every now and then, write them a little note and put it in their lunch, or a binder they will use that day.  Tell them how important they are to you and that you can't wait to see them when they, or you,  get home.  They might say that it's a 'corny' thing to do, but I bet they will be looking hopefully in their lunch bag each day for the next while.
   
   

Something to remember:  our wives need our attention, too!  Try doing either one of these things for you wife.  Surprise her by taking her out to lunch, or leave a note for her where she will see it that day, or even call her just to tell her you love her.  When it comes to our family, a little thought goes a long way!

Stay REAL!